When you don’t get selected for a project, go through a demotion or get fired from a job, it’s tough. It’s never easy to lose but be prepared when you do. The critical thing is that when it happens you want to lose with grace. Don’t allow too much of your heartache to show. Perception is everything.
When you lose a project, immediately thank the winner.
Don’t make excuses why you lost. You can do that later with your team. The lessons learned will help you so it won’t happen again with the next project.
When you’re demoted or fired, thank the folks you worked with. Let them know you hope you can count on them for a reference if needed.
It is not easy to be faced with these situations. The main thing is to smile and lose graciously. If you do that, in the end you will come out a winner.
Chris Rock’s new movie, Good Hair, is coming out in October. It’s about black women’s hair and it serves as a reminder that hair for most women and men can define our looks as either good or bad.
If you interviewed 1000 folks, I’ll bet 99% would tell you what they don’t like about their hair! In fact, it seems that everyone wants to have another’s hair color, style and texture. Because of that, it’s good that our personal hair style is only limited by our imagination.
These are the hair questions I receive on an ongoing basis:
• Should I dye my hair or let it go gray (from both men and women)?
• How long can hair be for women and men to still be taken seriously in a business setting?
• What is considered a comb-over for men?
• Is bald beautiful?
Do a Google search for hair. You’ll get back 104,000,000 links in about .042 seconds. This tells us hair is a personal and controversial subject of deep interest to all of us.
Whenever you present be it for a large of small group, it’s critical to engage the audience.
Here are a few key things to remember:
– Treat the audience as if you were having a one on one conversation.
– Gaze into someone’s eyes (the friendliest ones of course). It will help you seem more sincere.
– Allow questions during your presentation (Note: If you prefer to leave questions to the end, be sure to end your presentation after the question and answer period. This leaves the audience remembering your words and the purpose of your presentation.)
Although, you’re seeking engagement, be aware that a challenge can arise when the audience becomes too engaged. You can experience your audience having private conversations with each other when you bring up a good point. That’s good because it means the audience members want to validate your comments with their neighbor.
Unfortunately, they might do it while you’re still speaking!
When President Obama made his health care speech on television he wore a red tie. After the speech was over, the GOP leader in the U.S. Senate, Mitch McConnell (the highest-ranking Republican), can be seen wearing a blue tie as he followed Obama off the Senate floor.
Wikipedia says in the 2000 elections the Republican red and Democrat blue came from a news network map. The map highlighted red states (Republican) and blue states (Democrat).
Red and blue make a good contrast on color TV and the colors became trademark colors for the respective parties since that time.
So, with President Obama wearing red and Mitch McConnell wearing blue, they pulled the old switcheroo.
The question is, did it help build bipartisanship, was it good television or did they (like most guys) put on whatever was handed to them while not noticing a thing?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_states_and_blue_states.
In the United States, personal space is considered one arm length. But lately, folks have been too close. Especially in situations where relationships are being established.
Be aware of how personal space can work for or against you. Look at Kanye West’s slip up at the MTV awards show (see a clip of it at the link below). Had he honored the personal space of Taylor Swift, he would not have even considered taking her microphone away.
The only time you need to be in someone’s personal space is when you are invited. A wonderful example was when Beyonce asked Taylor Swift to come up to the stage and have her moment.
So, if you honor personal space, you’ll avoid having to apologize for the inevitable social mistakes that will result if you don’t.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1214080/Kanye-Wests-MTV-rant-sparks-wave-internet-virals.html
In the New York Times style section of September 13th, in Bill Cunningham’s On the Street – Catwalk piece, the majority of the women were wearing high heels. Just a few sensible women wore flat shoes.
What is it with the high heels? The tallest ones found on “Heels for Less” are eight inches! It used to be stilettos were for street walkers. However, note that Fashionista, Victoria Beckham, wears six and eight inch high heels shoes. Today, in some circles, that’s considered the “height” of fashion and style.
Does this mean us women wearing low shoes or flats may be considered out of style? If so, maybe someone needs to tell Michelle Obama she needs to get with it.
Or maybe the First Lady really demonstrates a woman with low heels and high style.
See Victoria Beckham’s shoe collection at http://www.mandyshotstilettos.com/2008/06/victoria-beckhams-shoes.htm
It is critical for today’s business professional to be on an internet networking site like Facebook, LinkedIn and Plaxo.
Keep in mind, that when you are posting your picture on these sites to put your best face forward.
Your Facebook photo can be anything from a casual headshot to a group picture of yourself with others (be sure you get their permission – like I did with Magic Johnson). The picture can have a fun quality to it but be careful. If a potential employer looks you up you don’t want your picture to be career killer.
Your LinkedIn photo should be a color head shot in professional clothing (you do not have to wear a jacket). Always smile in your picture. Keep it current- 4 years max. Never use a logo for your photo.
If you photographically present yourself like this on Facebook, LinkedIn or other social networking sites, you’ll be truly putting your best face forward!
I have been hoping this issue would go away. I have been biting my tongue this summer each time I see a man in a Speedo swim suit. I’ll make an exception for competitive summers, but otherwise Speedos should not be worn in public by men of any age.
I acknowledge that polls show that some of those interviewed for opinions on Speedos find them hot. But I’ll side with those who find them “cheesy”. I’ll also suggest that good taste obliges all of us to leave something to the imagination.
Particularly in these recessionary times, a Speedo gives the rather sad signal that the wearer cannot afford a little more fabric.
Plus, You Tube can be downright scary when you see videos of some not so in shape bodies encased in body hugging Speedos.
Read more: http://www.tmz.com/2006/07/28/male-stars-feel-the-need-for-speedos/#ixzz0QBxk4NN2
