Presenting to a group or individual has its challenges because of the ever-present conflict of what is happening in their lives. Beware of these speaking sins which will definitely cause folks to be inattentive or even worse be a difficult audience.

1. Speaking out-loud (impromptu speaking will always get you in trouble)
2. Rambling on and on (talking too much – being insensitive to time)
3. Looking like a deer with your eyes caught in the light (not being prepared for questions)
4. Too many ahs and ums (which makes it difficult to listen to – we know political speakers who do this – it shows a lack of knowledge and / or preparation)
5. Being augmentative (making the folks feel uncomfortable – not empowering them)
6. Not presenting what is in it for the audience (Why are they even there?)
7. Using too much humor (Humor only works if it is relevant to the listener.)

Committing one of these sins can derail any presentation.

Why do women still wear capris when so many stylists say not to do it. Capris make legs look heavier and thinner. They cut the leg in half which is usually not flattering. It also will show any imperfections a leg might have. Instead of capris, take advantage of the many slacks in very comfortable and cool fabrics.

In a recent television interview, a well-known international actor, politician, and respected activist did not appear to be aging well. The reason was that his hair color was very flat and unnatural looking. His facial hair was as gray as some sections of his hair.

He would have looked much sharper with just letting his hair go gray. Coloring hair becomes very difficult when it has been done for many years. Gray on men always looks better than a dye job.

The first yellow introduced was the primary yellow, then it became a golden yellow. In 2019, the new shade is lime (chartreuse)  yellow. It has become a neutral color depending on what it is paired with. This color can be worn with grays, navy and even black but it’s not an easy color to wear. It is bright, so before adding it to your wardrobe, try it with as a small accent other clothing items.

How many times have we tried to reach a customer service person on the phone but instead of getting a person, an automatic system responds with a long list of numbers to call? In appreciation to all the companies that offer this, we like the ones that make it simple after you hit the correct number! The companies that do well with the first customer service contact, usually put an efficient, inclusive agent on the phone that wants to help get the problem resolved.

When working with clients or others to solve a problem, resolve the issue so that everyone leaves with a sense of closure. This burnishes a reputation of inclusiveness and competence.

The challenge with working virtually is how it easy it is to slide into a very casual look! The rule of thumb, especially if you are alone in your office, is to make sure you are dressed appropriately if someone drops in unexpectedly.

The fashion and retail sectors have discovered business casual workout clothes. Uniqlo, Gap, and Crew, to name a few, have made clothing polished with a knit fabric with body shape. Soft jeans in multi-colors besides denim also create a professional look.

Fit on a garment is critical to visually adding or taking pounds off of your look. On shows or movies, the actors always appear slender. Some folks we know are naturally skinny. Others make sure they have just the right length on the shirt around the waist and sleeve.

How do we ensure our clothes fit right? If you have a tailor’s eye, use a full-length mirror to take a quick picture of yourself. Does your first impression put smile on your face? If not, take your items to a tailor for a professional opinion of the fit. This will provide a guideline on what works and what needs alterations. Begin with a few items a time.

One more tip is that the clothing must make you feel good, or as Marie Kondo suggests, ask:  Does it give you joy? if not, donate the items.

However, It is amazing when clothing fits properly!

Finally, suits for men and women are back with a whole new contemporary fashion! Fabrics are softer including leathers and colors not in the traditional blues, grays, or black. The blues are brighter with different hues. Jackets have different lapels and belts are back in with women suits.

New twist blazers look more like jackets except they are not so structured and come in non-traditional colors and prints for women. Men are moving gently toward more of a statement fabric. The more contemporary blazers have narrow lapels. Jackets and blazers have always projected a more finished look to an overall presence.

Renewing excitement after holidays are behind us and the new year begins is challenging. I remembered when I read Stephen Covey’s or Tony Robbins’ daily reflections to help jump start the day.

Self-motivation works best when looking at the upside of life and being grateful for the things we have going for us. Always staying in a hard driving mode gets old after a while. We must break and take some time to enjoy what we have. The length of the break needed depends on what works best for each person.

Successful leaders bring people together especially when the issues are critical. The best leaders:

• Take the time to listen
• Stay open to possibilities
• Never gloat after a win
• Always give credit to others
• Strive for the win/win
• Tap into a team of advisors